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Post by Eugene 2.0 on Apr 25, 2021 19:11:17 GMT
Men and women as friends then and now. Can men and women be friends?
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Post by karl on Apr 25, 2021 19:34:38 GMT
Yes. I have female friends.
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Post by Eugene 2.0 on Apr 25, 2021 22:35:58 GMT
Yes. I have female friends. Would you say there is no difference between being a friend of a woman, and being a friend of a man? I mean that even going for a walk with women and men would be different. |
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Post by karl on Apr 25, 2021 23:27:49 GMT
Yes. I have female friends. Would you say there is no difference between being a friend of a woman, and being a friend of a man? I mean that even going for a walk with women and men would be different.
Yes, there is a difference. Even if there is no romantic interest on either side, the male/female dynamic is still there. A functional friendship requires boundaries, and it's easier to maintain proper boundaries if one does not meet in the physical world. I wouldn't feel comfortable inviting an online female friend to visit me, for example.
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Post by Elizabeth on Apr 26, 2021 18:55:48 GMT
Yes, they can be.
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Post by fschmidt on Apr 30, 2021 22:39:48 GMT
I voted "It's barely possible.". Every fertile woman is a reproductive opportunity for men, so these women all trigger a base s-e-x-u-a-l instinct in men which is more fundamental than friendship. The reverse is not true, of course. Women just advertise their fertility, they don't actively seek fertile men. So women cannot understand why friendship between men and women is almost impossible.
(Hyphens added to one word because this stupid website deletes it otherwise.)
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Post by Eugene 2.0 on May 1, 2021 3:29:58 GMT
I voted "It's barely possible.". Every fertile woman is a reproductive opportunity for men, so these women all trigger a base s-e-x-u-a-l instinct in men which is more fundamental than friendship. The reverse is not true, of course. Women just advertise their fertility, they don't actively seek fertile men. So women cannot understand why friendship between men and women is almost impossible. (Hyphens added to one word because this stupid website deletes it otherwise.) Your answer seems to be the most truly one. The instincts have the major role playing in life, so holding to certain traditions which have proper and experience-based rules of how to care about them – is a sane position. Science can't give answers on some questions like this, especially if that science grounds on immorality and weirdnesses. |
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Post by Elizabeth on May 8, 2021 5:55:16 GMT
Even brother and sisters can be friends. And usually those are the closes bonds unless there are spouses involved too. Plus females tend to be closer to their father's (daddy's girl) and boys tend to be closer to their mother's (momma's boy). There's a study too that females tend to pick husbands who remind them of their dad so they can find someone to care and nurture them all their lives. I think there was some weird scent thing that they also mentally match from a decent guy to their dad. And usually when we have a mamma's boy and if you slighly say anything negative about their moms they just lose their temper. I always found that weird. Like I wouldn't bat an eyelash if one likes or dislikes my mom.
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Post by Eugene 2.0 on May 13, 2021 11:17:30 GMT
Even brother and sisters can be friends. And usually those are the closes bonds unless there are spouses involved too. Plus females tend to be closer to their father's (daddy's girl) and boys tend to be closer to their mother's (momma's boy). There's a study too that females tend to pick husbands who remind them of their dad so they can find someone to care and nurture them all their lives. I think there was some weird scent thing that they also mentally match from a decent guy to their dad. And usually when we have a mamma's boy and if you slighly say anything negative about their moms they just lose their temper. I always found that weird. Like I wouldn't bat an eyelash if one likes or dislikes my mom. Some brother and sisters can be lovers as it happened something between cousins or second cousins, etc. Hegel's sister had a crush on his brother. Herbert Wells was married on his first cousin, ans so on. I suspect even my first cousin had a crush on me. So, could it really be the friendship? |
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Post by Elizabeth on May 13, 2021 20:16:13 GMT
Even brother and sisters can be friends. And usually those are the closes bonds unless there are spouses involved too. Plus females tend to be closer to their father's (daddy's girl) and boys tend to be closer to their mother's (momma's boy). There's a study too that females tend to pick husbands who remind them of their dad so they can find someone to care and nurture them all their lives. I think there was some weird scent thing that they also mentally match from a decent guy to their dad. And usually when we have a mamma's boy and if you slighly say anything negative about their moms they just lose their temper. I always found that weird. Like I wouldn't bat an eyelash if one likes or dislikes my mom. Some brother and sisters can be lovers as it happened something between cousins or second cousins, etc. Hegel's sister had a crush on his brother. Herbert Wells was married on his first cousin, ans so on. I suspect even my first cousin had a crush on me. So, could it really be the friendship? That is a different situation. It has nothing to do with the opposite sex. A male sibling can be like that with another male sibling it doesn't necessarily have to be a female siblings. Cousins can be like that too. Even parents and kids. Some with animals and objects too. This is all just a mental issue. |
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Post by Eugene 2.0 on May 14, 2021 18:48:46 GMT
Some brother and sisters can be lovers as it happened something between cousins or second cousins, etc. Hegel's sister had a crush on his brother. Herbert Wells was married on his first cousin, ans so on. I suspect even my first cousin had a crush on me. So, could it really be the friendship? That is a different situation. It has nothing to do with the opposite sex. A male sibling can be like that with another male sibling it doesn't necessarily have to be a female siblings. Cousins can be like that too. Even parents and kids. Some with animals and objects too. This is all just a mental issue. Could be. But friending with females (for males) may be a problem, because it's not easy to understand each other: males and females are like different physical objects or different animals. To understand each other some physical stuff should be the same or shared my them. What do I mean? - I mean that if I had have an experience of being hurt or being injured, or etc, I would be able to speak with a person with similar symptoms or experience, and surely we would understand each other much more better, than the persons with different experience. And that's why it is so hard sometimes to explain the other person what are your feeling at the moment. Of course, I won't object to the impossibility of the friendship between the opposite sexes, but what is obvious for me is that: both of them must conclude in what they both have. For instance, if they're parents they have to understand each other in parenting their child like: walking with a child, feeding it, and so on. When a mother milks a child, no men helps her. Because none of men understands her how to experience that. While mothers doubtly can help their males children to learn how to fight or to protect themselves; at least they would do it much more worse, than a man could do it. Anyway, the way to become friends is the way of similar or shared views, sympathies, talks, and so on. |
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Post by Triangle on May 15, 2021 2:56:16 GMT
Well, friendship is a normal thing when people like someother but don't have any feelings or romantic interest.
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Post by Onetrack on Sept 4, 2021 4:57:41 GMT
Nope, absolutely not.
There will always be basic underlying human attraction - whether it rears its head or not, it will always be there.
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