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Post by shan on Jun 5, 2019 18:04:25 GMT
Its really takes too much courage and hard deciding to move on, but the problem is how many time should i keep let go my emotions??? Every time after failure, I had a new dream and start doing better and so moved on. I thought everything will be fine in future. But again all this. I am not a Robot or a dead man. I have a heart and its really cool. I love myself. But when all these heart breaking thing happens, it really making me sick.
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Post by Elizabeth on Jun 5, 2019 20:44:47 GMT
Honestly, the best answer is to be single. That way there are no issues to worry about. Otherwise, second best option is the traditional dating and marriage where you meet and decide if you want to be serious and make this relationship work and to be pure until marriage. Other than those ways you're pretty much flipping a coin. Odds are 50/50. So not a good chance of a happy long relationship that works because people weren't too mature or smart enough for the relationship.
And you should love yourself. If someone doesn't love you in the relationship enough for ups and downs then they're not worth it. What is your age or age range if you don't mind me asking?
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Post by shan on Jun 6, 2019 2:28:45 GMT
I am 28. This is the 4th time i am trying to move on. What i feel is that if i am not that good with them how it would be fine after marriage? But staying Single is fine however one day you may want to be committed.
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Post by shan on Jun 6, 2019 2:32:18 GMT
And one more thing. I love myself very much. So this time i met somebody exactly like me. I meant everything the way i feel, i react to things, i express. But at the end...separated. So i m confused now what is happening around.
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Post by xxxxxxxxx on Jun 6, 2019 22:36:32 GMT
Honestly, the best answer is to be single. That way there are no issues to worry about. Otherwise, second best option is the traditional dating and marriage where you meet and decide if you want to be serious and make this relationship work and to be pure until marriage. Other than those ways you're pretty much flipping a coin. Odds are 50/50. So not a good chance of a happy long relationship that works because people weren't too mature or smart enough for the relationship. And you should love yourself. If someone doesn't love you in the relationship enough for ups and downs then they're not worth it. What is your age or age range if you don't mind me asking? The best option is just get married to someone who wants to be single. Barring spending intimate time together when "needed", and a mutual agreement to exclusivity, both individuals move on with life as normal single people. Married and single at the same time. Neither being single or in a relationship seems to work...best just do both. |
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Post by Elizabeth on Jun 7, 2019 1:23:48 GMT
Honestly, the best answer is to be single. That way there are no issues to worry about. Otherwise, second best option is the traditional dating and marriage where you meet and decide if you want to be serious and make this relationship work and to be pure until marriage. Other than those ways you're pretty much flipping a coin. Odds are 50/50. So not a good chance of a happy long relationship that works because people weren't too mature or smart enough for the relationship. And you should love yourself. If someone doesn't love you in the relationship enough for ups and downs then they're not worth it. What is your age or age range if you don't mind me asking? The best option is just get married to someone who wants to be single. Barring spending intimate time together when "needed", and a mutual agreement to exclusivity, both individuals move on with life as normal single people. Married and single at the same time. Neither being single or in a relationship seems to work...best just do both. Wait, what? I mean if you're saying that to avoid marriage problems and since divorce isn't allowed for Christians then yeah just keep your distance while being married. Like, if my husband was physically abusive or whatever then I'd just live away from him and maybe remarry when he dies. Easy solution to the situation since it was my fault for marrying an idiot  But you must reply to sham so he has as many options as possible!  |
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Post by Elizabeth on Jun 7, 2019 1:26:09 GMT
And one more thing. I love myself very much. So this time i met somebody exactly like me. I meant everything the way i feel, i react to things, i express. But at the end...separated. So i m confused now what is happening around. Did this person say why they left? Sometimes I left because in the end I wasn't comfortable with them, or they were like trying to live my life for me so were too much in my face, etc. Because if you can find out what happened it might be able to get fixed. Unless the person just fears commitment and they noticed things went really well. |
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Post by shan on Jun 7, 2019 1:52:31 GMT
Honestly, the best answer is to be single. That way there are no issues to worry about. Otherwise, second best option is the traditional dating and marriage where you meet and decide if you want to be serious and make this relationship work and to be pure until ]The best option is just get married to someone who wants to be single. Barring spending intimate time together when "needed", and a mutual agreement to exclusivity, both individuals move on with life as normal single people. Married and single at the same time. Neither being single or in a relationship seems to work...best just do both. They stay together and independent. Sounds good. But the level of understanding has to be rich, very rich otherwise it wont work. |
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Post by shan on Jun 7, 2019 2:00:48 GMT
And one more thing. I love myself very much. So this time i met somebody exactly like me. I meant everything the way i feel, i react to things, i express. But at the end...separated. So i m confused now what is happening around. Did this person say why they left? Sometimes I left because in the end I wasn't comfortable with them, or they were like trying to live my life for me so were too much in my face, etc. Because if you can find out what happened it might be able to get fixed. Unless the person just fears commitment and they noticed things went really well. That is the problem. This person said that I do not respect women which is completely misunderstanding.I tried to know what exactly happend but no luck. |
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Post by shan on Jun 7, 2019 2:24:26 GMT
Guys, thank you.
I know I will find a way out of all this. Not today or tomorrow but one day for sure. I will keep going in life, keep doing whatever i love to do as always, but i will keep looking for answers that what the **** happened. I can not live openly, opened heart but its okay.
Last time I moved on knowing she( not this woman) was not interested anymore, but later she messaged back. Unfortunately i missed all those messages. I had moved on with new dreams. Due to all these I have successful and very well paid job with responsibilities now. My family, colleagues, friends they all love me so much and I do too. But my heart miss this woman a lot.
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Post by thesageofmainstreet on Jun 7, 2019 18:34:25 GMT
I am 28. This is the 4th time i am trying to move on. What i feel is that if i am not that good with them how it would be fine after marriage? But staying Single is fine however one day you may want to be committed. For careerist reasons, I got off-track from the pain-free way I started out with the opposite sex. If I had kept to that course, I would have tried to be more aggressive, making a game of it. When that led to an unhappy ending, I had the momentum and habit to go back to the game, so the lost love was quickly forgotten. You don't learn any lessons from books or movies, of course, but you don't learn anything from real-life failures either. However, I can see a re-write of fictional downer endings as a pattern I should have followed in real-life. For example, a working-class guy like Jack London (as Martin Eden) gets dumped by a timid and conformist intellectual snob (as I did, so being warned fictionally made me irrationally confident that I could control that situation.) But then he meets a working-class girl who idolizes him. Without the unhappy ending manipulated into the novel, he could have educated her just like he had educated himself, or whatever you're into that makes you think you can only get girls who are already into that whatever. In the movie, Moulin Rouge, it was fictionally forced that Toulouse-Lautrec was sure that a devoted fan would eventually become disgusted by his disability, as had a previous lover. So maybe you're being held back by the irrational feeling that your history will endlessly repeat itself. |
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