How do you expect your spouse to act?

She should be happy , if she's not happy ... Find out why and make her happy!

Jesus’s love for the church illustrates how the husband should love and care for his wife. Christ loved the church so much that He gave His life so the church could be saved, so the husband should give his life for his wife; he should always be concerned for his wife’s wellbeing, honor her, and nourish and provide for her as he does his own body as she is the weaker vessel. He should use his authority in the marriage, not to take advantage of it and please himself, but to do what is best for her and his family.
Likewise, the wife should submit herself to her husband(unless he tells her to do something sinful), reverence her husband, and, like the husband unto the wife, give him due benevolence.
Both spouses should seek the wellbeing and pleasure of the other, neither should be selfish and insist on only what they want and doing things their own way. They should be completely committed to each other and choose to do what is best for the other as both have authority over each other’s bodies, but at the same time they should treat each other with respect and always consider what the other wants in everything from how to deal with family issues, decisions in raising their children, and even affection. There should never be a lack of love and care in a marriage and there should always be an expression of love and care in words and actions.

Divorce is NEVER an option.
Malachi 2:16 KJV
[16] For the Lord , the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

Though this is more traditional, when spouses are married, they make vows to each other; they are asked,
(Groom), do you take (bride) to be your Wife?(sometimes “lawfully wedded wife”)
Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect her, forsaking all others
and holding only to her forevermore?
(Groom says “I do”)
(Bride), do you take (groom) to be your Husband?(sometimes “lawfully wedded husband”)
Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect him, forsaking all others
and holding only to him forevermore?
(Bride says “I do”)

And then they repeat their vows to each other,

I, (Groom), take thee, (Bride), to be my wife. To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, and I promise my love to you forevermore.

I, (Bride), take thee, (Groom), to be my Husband. To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, and I promise my love to you forevermore.

These vows in marriage should be taken with complete sincerity and with the intention of following through with them!

After all, we are commanded by God to love,
2 John 1:5-6 KJV
[5] And now I beseech thee, lady, not as though I wrote a new commandment unto thee, but that which we had from the beginning, that we love one another.

And if we love God we will keep His commandments,
[6] And this is love, that we walk after his commandments. This is the commandment, That, as ye have heard from the beginning, ye should walk in it.
1 John 5:2-3 KJV
[2] By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God, and keep his commandments. [3] For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.
John 15:12,17 KJV
[12] This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you. [17] These things I command you, that ye love one another.
John 15:10 KJV
[10] If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father's commandments, and abide in his love.
John 14:15 KJV
[15] If ye love me, keep my commandments.
John 13:34 KJV
[34] A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.


Marriage references;
Ephesians 5:22-25 KJV
[22] Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. [23] For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. [24] Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. [25] Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Ephesians 5:33 KJV
[33] Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

1 Corinthians 7:3-4 KJV
[3] Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. [4] The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

1 Corinthians 7:33 KJV
[33] But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.

Colossians 3:18-19 KJV
[18] Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. [19] Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

1 Peter 3:5,7 KJV
[5] For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: [7] Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Will try to not match what you all said so far....

A spouse must act like they know it takes 2 to make 1 marriage work at all times. One must listen when needed and speak when needed and not overpower with words and wisdom or yell to be heard. Conflict is solved in a calm manner seeking compromise in a way that satisfies both. Plans and decisions are made in a calm manner that benefits both. I do not believe anger and hate can be present at all or must be dealt with as soon as possible because a spouse is not an enemy but your best friend. And kids should never see parents fighting. Problem can wait then if kids are aroung and it'll give a spouse time to cool off if in needed, think more about what to discuss when it's time, etc. Kids should see parents kept the peace in the home and supported talking problems out to solve together.

Guys please keep off topic out of here. facepalm
This isn't a Chrsitian topic so of it has noting to do with a spouse then don't just quote bible stuff.

That had to do with a spouse that he posted. I meant just posting bible verses in random threads not about bible isn't good. That's all.

Oh u mean. When u said guys. U actually reffered to Dk that its off topic to bring in verses? Yikes!! Sorry i understood it later...tag the person plz, so my negative assumption doesn't kick in