Why is it that the number one thing that men and women are attracted to in a partner are both stupid things? As I understand it men are attracted first to looks which is retarded because someone's looks says nothing about what kind of person a woman is, and women are attracted to confidence which is just as retarded because the most confident human beings in existence are also usually the most repugnant (psychopaths, sociopaths, narcissists, and Machiavellian personality types, womanizers, violent callous men, men with no scruples). No wonder most marriages end in divorce. Literally the absolute worst most shallow things in existence are what people are attracted to, yet we're all wired this way. Why did God create humans in such a manner or is this the result of original sin?
God gave us the freedom to choose. (Adam and Eve: the fruits of the tree of life).
But implicit in this, is firstly the freedom to choose to think about why we make our choices.
Society teaches us stereotypes, and its quite natural to accept this when we are young.
But when these choices result in loss and sadness, people do not reflect on why it did not work.
They nearly always jump straight back into the next relationship out of fear of being alone.
Then it goes all awry again. So they just blame the other person, and do it again.
After suffering a few times like this I figured a policy. If I had been in a relationship for 4 months,
then I must spend 2 months alone thinking about why I made such a poor choice.
After a marriage of 5 years ended I figured I would spend 5 years alone thinking deeply about
why it went wrong. How could I have chosen such a silly girl like that AGAIN?
I eventually realized that I was deceiving myself. I was attracted to sex and equating that
with emotional happiness. We live in an over-populated world. There is no need for more
people until we can colonize other planets, so really; most marriage is just this self-deception.
Find happiness within yourself. When you do, you will realize that celibacy is the highest state of
mind there is. Its just amazing how much free time and energy I have to explore so many
different enjoyable pursuits. I think back to how much time was wasted chasing girls. Silly me.
I'm not against romance. I certainly had plenty of fun times with all those pretty girls.
So chase them in your youth, for sure. But most people just miss out on so much by fixating
on the idea of a relationship as a necessity. So much social pressure and emotional weakness.
The last 15 years of celibacy have been incredibly productive for me. Its also tragic
how often society uses your children to emotionally blackmail you into supporting its corruption.
How many people steal and fraud to support their family? Such excuses are very pervasive.
Maybe I'll start a family one day. Maybe not.
But if I do, it will be on my own terms, not the terms of this corrupt society. I should never
be in a position to make children go to those odd corporate atheist brain-washing schools.
I should never say to them: 'go get a job'. I should be able to completely care for them, employ them,
teach them; and sustain them when I 'm gone. Anything less than that promotes social decay.
Liberate yourself. Choose a higher desire. Choose to think honestly about why you make bad choices.
No regrets here. Every mistake has been a learning experience.
