Jail time

If I was married, yes I would expect her to be there when I get out.

blood in blood out

When I first met my wife's cousin, he was 12 years old. His mother and father had bought a house in Old Salem. Years later, I was invited back to the retelling of the Marriage Vows ceremony at Old Towne Club because he had been married for 20 years. His father-in-law was a preacher at one of the largest churches in Winston Salem and presided of the retelling the vows ceremony just as he had done it at the original marriage ceremony twenty years previously. Six months after this, he was in jail and one year later, the judge sentenced him to between 28 and 32 years in prison without parole. He was an attorney and had embezzled clients' trust funds. When every attorney and judge that is a member of the bar in NC has to pay an extra $250/year for malpractice insurance, it means that you are in deep kaka. You don't mess with legal professionals' money. They will not forgive you.

His wife asked for a divorce 6 months after he went to prison and was granted a divorce 1 year later. After 10 years had passed, I had heard that if he was somehow transferred to Georgia, the governor of Georgia was releasing all prisoners who were convicted of non-violent crimes.  The attorney appreciated what I was trying to do for him, and recognized this was "thinking outside the box", but he wanted any efforts to go thru his lawyers, who were handling his case with the parole board. That was 5 years ago. The legal profession got him into his current state and they couldn't be counted on to get him out of his predicament.

The IRS has a method of getting a settlement.  I had mentioned via email to his son that instead of his father being saddled with IRS debt he can't repay when he gets out when he is in his 80s, it would be preferable to make a settlement while he is in prison. IRS debt survives bankruptcy. He was $250,000 in debt to the IRS when he was sentenced. The idea of his son providing $250 to relieve his debt seemed to be reasonable to me. Unfortunately, his son wouldn't be good for $250, so I dropped it.

Why you may ask? I think it was because of very high expectations his father had for him that he couldn't fulfill. He did lead a very extravagant lifestyle before he was sentenced. He did embezzle from his own father's trust funds that were tied to his estate, which indicates an anger at his father.

I will not participate in any "retelling the vows" ceremony because the words will ring very hollow with me.

Not really, in both context, because, if the person is in jail, and is found guilty, which means, he cannot be trusted. Yes, sometimes, people in love also commit some minor crimes, like stealing items of girl friends, but, then, what's the use of such a person who cannot work hard, earn money on his skill and take care of the girl?

Can such a person be trusted? Minor crime turns into felony