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Post by Elizabeth on Sept 26, 2017 0:02:30 GMT
Many start off really well even and yet those end sometimes. What is the problem? If they were able to deal with it before why not anymore? Don't all relationships take work? So, do they simply give up or don't care to have the relationship they claim to want? Discuss.
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Post by Elizabeth on Jun 10, 2018 22:42:05 GMT
I always thought the answer to the question you asked was that they no longer cared to put their effort into the relationship. All relationships take work. Both people must be present in the relationship and show they care about the relationship for that relationship to work.  I realize I should have made it more obvious I was talking mostly about friendships, but that does apply to pretty much any relationship though, yes they always take work to maintain, but if neither party has any common interests anymore, and the only thing really keeping them together is what they used to do, it doesn't matter how much work you put in, it will just be a forced relationship. You ever do something you really don't care to do, or even disliked, but you did anyway because someone you are in a relationship with wanted to do that thing? Yeah that would start to become the norm in what I am talking about.
Like trying a new restaurant or food was something that happened to me before. I usually prefer to stick to what I normally eat since I'm picky with food as is but since the other person wished to try another place I did it anyway to not just think of myself Shrug What do you think about those that seem to care a lot in the beginning of any type of relationship but then act like a stranger? |
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Post by Freebite on Jun 11, 2018 2:42:53 GMT
"What do you think about those that seem to care a lot in the beginning of any type of relationship but then act like a stranger?" Those sorts of things are strange, though from what I've seen, which sadly has been more than a few times, it's often because they feel guilty over something, if it's a romantic relationship then it might be because they cheated on the other. Outside of that, I couldn't say, and as for why they become a stranger, the best I can come up with is they try to hide it by acting like that.
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Post by Elizabeth on Jun 11, 2018 3:31:49 GMT
"What do you think about those that seem to care a lot in the beginning of any type of relationship but then act like a stranger?" Those sorts of things are strange, though from what I've seen, which sadly has been more than a few times, it's often because they feel guilty over something, if it's a romantic relationship then it might be because they cheated on the other. Outside of that, I couldn't say, and as for why they become a stranger, the best I can come up with is they try to hide it by acting like that. So basically they're rinning from a problem and don't wish to confront or discuss it with the other person? They don't really have problem solving skills then it'll seem :( |
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Post by Freebite on Jun 11, 2018 3:36:12 GMT
"What do you think about those that seem to care a lot in the beginning of any type of relationship but then act like a stranger?" Those sorts of things are strange, though from what I've seen, which sadly has been more than a few times, it's often because they feel guilty over something, if it's a romantic relationship then it might be because they cheated on the other. Outside of that, I couldn't say, and as for why they become a stranger, the best I can come up with is they try to hide it by acting like that. So basically they're rinning from a problem and don't wish to confront or discuss it with the other person? They don't really have problem solving skills then it'll seem :( I don't know about not having problem solving issues, or if they are too afraid to try. This is just my personal experience with it, but fear seems to often be more the driving factor in that case. |
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Post by Clovis Merovingian on Jul 6, 2018 7:52:22 GMT
Many start off really well even and yet those end sometimes. What is the problem? If they were able to deal with it before why not anymore? Don't all relationships take work? So, do they simply give up or don't care to have the relationship they claim to want? Discuss. Well... Sometimes this happens. |
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Post by yuga on Jul 27, 2018 13:07:36 GMT
It all depends on why the relationship started in the first place!
If the driver for a relationship is one of these:
- The void (a feeling of emptiness, and the need for someone else to fill that)
- The desire and prospective pleasure
- Lack of clarity on why one seeks it in the first place
It is deemed to not last.
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Post by Onetrack on Aug 6, 2018 1:37:57 GMT
Eventually, it just gets to the point of why bother anymore.
Only so much effort can be put in. Once you realize that, then its time to move on.
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Post by vicky on Mar 19, 2019 19:58:22 GMT
Both must put God first and put the relationship second. God's the only one who loves you. When you do this, the spark you felt at the beginning will be prominent everyday henceforth. But it's something both have to do together. If not, then it'll be like any typical relationship where two people who supposedly love each other gets bored of that love and divorces or has to find new ways to reignite the love that was once felt at the time they first met. Love between two persons is called infatuation. True love lies only with God. One is limited the other is eternal. When you focus on the eternal which is pure bliss your relationship will naturally become that much sweeter. You shouldn't be together always and speak excessively. This is what leads to splitting up, an excessive show of compassion. Control such urges. You must try get to the point where speech becomes hardly necessary anymore. Trust and have faith in each other always. Do not look for the spark outside of yourselves for it is within yourselves. Loving yourselves first is equal to putting God first. Help and encourage each other to find that spark which lies dormant and unrealized within. This is the key to having a long healthy relationship, free of endless desires.
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Post by PISTON1246 on Mar 19, 2019 20:43:15 GMT
I HAVE THE FREEDOM RIGHT NOW TO HAVE SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE AND I DID THAT BEFORE.
I DID NOT THINK I WOULD WANT TO STAY WITH THE LAST PERSON I HAD SEX WITH BEFORE I STARTED HAVING SEX WITH THEM.
WE WERE NOT BOTH INTERESTED IN STAYING AND SO WE WENT OUR SEPARATE WAYS TO LIVE LIFE WITHOUT EACH OTHER.
I THINK A RELATIONSHIP CAN START WITH A ENCOUNTER BUT SEX WITH NO COMMITMENT IS NOT A GOOD WAY TO START OUT.
I THINK A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A MAN AND A LADY SHOULD BE A MARRIAGE.
HOW DEEP CAN A RELATIONSHIP BE BETWEEN PEOPLE WHO JUST MET LESS THAN A HOUR BEFORE?
WHAT DO YOU KNOW ABOUT EACH OTHER AND BASED ON WHAT YOU KNOW WHAT DID YOU LIKE ABOUT THIS PERSON IN QUESTION?
MY EXPERIENCE TAUGHT ME THAT FORNICATION CAN NOT RELIABLY GIVE ME THE RESULTS I AM LOOKING FOR.
IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO MARRY THEM IN THE BEGINNING THEN YOU ARE NOT RIGHT TO HAVE SEX WITH EACH OTHER.
THAT IS MY TAKE.
I HAVE BEEN INFLUENCE BY THE TELEVISION WITH THE IDEA THAT HAVING A GIRLFRIEND IS EQUAL TO HAVING A WIFE.
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Post by xxxxxxxxx on Mar 30, 2019 15:17:04 GMT
People forgot how to sacrifice. Sacrifice is natural law. Sex, as a transmission of the self to another person is a sacrifice. When limited to strictly erotic means the nature of the self becomes divided. Sharing joy with those experiencing joy, suffering with those who bare suffering is part of that sacrifice.
Love is a forgetting of the self, it is a sacrifice of the self to the self through God mediated within the human condition.
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Post by xxxxxxxxx on Mar 30, 2019 15:20:40 GMT
Both must put God first and put the relationship second. God's the only one who loves you. When you do this, the spark you felt at the beginning will be prominent everyday henceforth. But it's something both have to do together. If not, then it'll be like any typical relationship where two people who supposedly love each other gets bored of that love and divorces or has to find new ways to reignite the love that was once felt at the time they first met. Love between two persons is called infatuation. True love lies only with God. One is limited the other is eternal. When you focus on the eternal which is pure bliss your relationship will naturally become that much sweeter. You shouldn't be together always and speak excessively. This is what leads to splitting up, an excessive show of compassion. Control such urges. You must try get to the point where speech becomes hardly necessary anymore. Trust and have faith in each other always. Do not look for the spark outside of yourselves for it is within yourselves. Loving yourselves first is equal to putting God first. Help and encourage each other to find that spark which lies dormant and unrealized within. This is the key to having a long healthy relationship, free of endless desires. A relationship without putting God first ends in its own hell.
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Post by xxxxxxxxx on Mar 30, 2019 15:29:17 GMT
Eventually, it just gets to the point of why bother anymore. Only so much effort can be put in. Once you realize that, then its time to move on. And one day you realize hopelessness is hopeless and we are dependent upon God.
I ran into an old "lover", in lose terms, last wednesday. I saw her face and she seemed sad. The world, as well as her decisions, are catching up to her. As well as mine.
There is nothing I can do to save her, because it is all free will. We are all left reaping what we sow while mired in the sins of others. I just pray for mercy. I had sex with her...she is an extension of me.
She earned her fate. So have I.
The only thing on my mind now is a simple prayer: "Lord, me for her. Don't let her be destroyed. We all earned our fates, we all have made decisions. Spare her and save her from the dark path she is walking. If you need someone to pay for it, give her punishment to me...I joined myself to her, let it be on my head. Spare her destruction."
If all I can do is pray...than that is what I will do. In life, and in "love" specifically, I learned that I know nothing and am dependent on Divine Mercy.
The world, people, everything is so chaotic and dark the last thing we need is judgement...we all need mercy and compassion.
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Post by Elizabeth on Mar 30, 2019 18:19:01 GMT
Eventually, it just gets to the point of why bother anymore. Only so much effort can be put in. Once you realize that, then its time to move on. And one day you realize hopelessness is hopeless and we are dependent upon God.
I ran into an old "lover", in lose terms, last wednesday. I saw her face and she seemed sad. The world, as well as her decisions, are catching up to her. As well as mine.
There is nothing I can do to save her, because it is all free will. We are all left reaping what we sow while mired in the sins of others. I just pray for mercy. I had sex with her...she is an extension of me.
She earned her fate. So have I.
The only thing on my mind now is a simple prayer: "Lord, me for her. Don't let her be destroyed. We all earned our fates, we all have made decisions. Spare her and save her from the dark path she is walking. If you need someone to pay for it, give her punishment to me...I joined myself to her, let it be on my head. Spare her destruction." If all I can do is pray...than that is what I will do. In life, and in "love" specifically, I learned that I know nothing and am dependent on Divine Mercy. The world, people, everything is so chaotic and dark the last thing we need is judgement...we all need mercy and compassion.
I suggest you marry her if you want to put God first. Joining is till death do you part. |
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Post by jonbain on Mar 30, 2019 21:42:43 GMT
Many start off really well even and yet those end sometimes. What is the problem? If they were able to deal with it before why not anymore? Don't all relationships take work? So, do they simply give up or don't care to have the relationship they claim to want? Discuss. All the girls I was ever with just wanted to manipulate me into something else. When they realized the could not, they get hostile in order to try and get me to end it so they can act all hurt an rejected and get sympathy from their girlfriends. Most girls really just want a chauffeur-buttler-donkey-dog. |
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Post by xxxxxxxxx on Apr 1, 2019 19:54:37 GMT
And one day you realize hopelessness is hopeless and we are dependent upon God.
I ran into an old "lover", in lose terms, last wednesday. I saw her face and she seemed sad. The world, as well as her decisions, are catching up to her. As well as mine.
There is nothing I can do to save her, because it is all free will. We are all left reaping what we sow while mired in the sins of others. I just pray for mercy. I had sex with her...she is an extension of me.
She earned her fate. So have I.
The only thing on my mind now is a simple prayer: "Lord, me for her. Don't let her be destroyed. We all earned our fates, we all have made decisions. Spare her and save her from the dark path she is walking. If you need someone to pay for it, give her punishment to me...I joined myself to her, let it be on my head. Spare her destruction." If all I can do is pray...than that is what I will do. In life, and in "love" specifically, I learned that I know nothing and am dependent on Divine Mercy. The world, people, everything is so chaotic and dark the last thing we need is judgement...we all need mercy and compassion.
I suggest you marry her if you want to put God first. Joining is till death do you part. Elizabeth...shut up. There is nothing to be done, or I would have done it. Stop talking about God's will. |
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