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Post by Elizabeth on Jun 11, 2023 22:17:46 GMT
Ok, so it's about me. My parents bought a different house in like 2012 I think it was and they needed some help with it since they couldn't fully afford it. The oldest sibling had no money to help at all so they didn't ask him. They mostly went to me. At first I was like if you can't afford it then get a different one but they didn't want to do that. So I basically said ok but that my other brother had to do something too. So my other brother agreed and they got their house. In the end I got all my money back and I think my brother did too. I also made it loud and clear that I don't want anything to do with that house again and they said ok.
Now it is 2023 and they want to put my name on the house and my brother. Just the brother who helped pay for it last time. My brother agreed and I said no because as I told them back in 2012 I wanted nothing else to do with it and if they want to add another name there is the eldest brother still. My mom was like no we will not put his name just yours and the other one. And I'm like well I don't want my name on it so then you'll just have one brothers name and she's like no he can't be on there without you because of his own issues. The heck do I need to be involved for? Is it wrong for me to refuse? Like if it was JUST in my name only I'd sell it anyway. I just don't want a house especially with several names on it. Like if my parents die it will be drama because I'd want to sell it and my brother wouldn't or whatever because he can't have a house in his name only because of the issues he has. Basically, I don't want to sign up for this as I have been saying for yearssss and I don't want my brother's issues to backfire on me one day.
Your thoughts on what to do?
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Post by karl on Jun 12, 2023 7:46:27 GMT
Stand your ground. Only get entangled with those you plan to spend the rest of your life with.
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Post by jonbain on Jun 12, 2023 9:44:24 GMT
Your parents fear your brother will not be able to cope on his own.
Difficult as it is, he needs you to be part of something with him.
We all have funny family members, they keep us real.
Help them out with your personal light by being involved
in their issues, no matter how dull they may seem to be right now.
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Post by lamburk on Jun 20, 2023 8:49:26 GMT
I guess, it's your issue, and you should resolve it. you should never ever bring your personal matters to the public, and let entire world know about it, because, someone can black mail you.
All I would say, you do what you think is right. The pragmatic thing, which I would have done, is to seek a solicitor, and get his advise.
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Post by rexa on Jul 27, 2023 18:19:31 GMT
I guess, it's your issue, and you should resolve it. you should never ever bring your personal matters to the public, and let entire world know about it, because, someone can black mail you. All I would say, you do what you think is right. The pragmatic thing, which I would have done, is to seek a solicitor, and get his advise. This doesn't help. Nobody here has influence in her life to blackmail. Solicitor's come with the hefty fees. She obviously thought posting it here might help navigate through. As for personal matters perhaps she thinks of the forum members being like her close family due to the amount of time she has spent with them. So best we can do is assure of this fact |
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Post by rexa on Jul 27, 2023 18:57:59 GMT
Ok, so it's about me. My parents bought a different house in like 2012 I think it was and they needed some help with it since they couldn't fully afford it. The oldest sibling had no money to help at all so they didn't ask him. They mostly went to me. At first I was like if you can't afford it then get a different one but they didn't want to do that. So I basically said ok but that my other brother had to do something too. So my other brother agreed and they got their house. In the end I got all my money back and I think my brother did too. I also made it loud and clear that I don't want anything to do with that house again and they said ok. Now it is 2023 and they want to put my name on the house and my brother. Just the brother who helped pay for it last time. My brother agreed and I said no because as I told them back in 2012 I wanted nothing else to do with it and if they want to add another name there is the eldest brother still. My mom was like no we will not put his name just yours and the other one. And I'm like well I don't want my name on it so then you'll just have one brothers name and she's like no he can't be on there without you because of his own issues. The heck do I need to be involved for? Is it wrong for me to refuse? Like if it was JUST in my name only I'd sell it anyway. I just don't want a house especially with several names on it. Like if my parents die it will be drama because I'd want to sell it and my brother wouldn't or whatever because he can't have a house in his name only because of the issues he has. Basically, I don't want to sign up for this as I have been saying for yearssss and I don't want my brother's issues to backfire on me one day. Your thoughts on what to do? Best thing to do, would be to put my name in co ownership. I would love to have a property in California. Coming to your question. Firstly I don't understand why a co ownership is required. The term Issues you mentioned is a vague term. Can't extract explicitly out of it. I don't see it as a legal bottleneck |
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Post by rexa on Jul 27, 2023 19:40:04 GMT
Ok, so it's about me. My parents bought a different house in like 2012 I think it was and they needed some help with it since they couldn't fully afford it. The oldest sibling had no money to help at all so they didn't ask him. They mostly went to me. At first I was like if you can't afford it then get a different one but they didn't want to do that. So I basically said ok but that my other brother had to do something too. So my other brother agreed and they got their house. In the end I got all my money back and I think my brother did too. I also made it loud and clear that I don't want anything to do with that house again and they said ok. Now it is 2023 and they want to put my name on the house and my brother. Just the brother who helped pay for it last time. My brother agreed and I said no because as I told them back in 2012 I wanted nothing else to do with it and if they want to add another name there is the eldest brother still. My mom was like no we will not put his name just yours and the other one. And I'm like well I don't want my name on it so then you'll just have one brothers name and she's like no he can't be on there without you because of his own issues. The heck do I need to be involved for? Is it wrong for me to refuse? Like if it was JUST in my name only I'd sell it anyway. I just don't want a house especially with several names on it. Like if my parents die it will be drama because I'd want to sell it and my brother wouldn't or whatever because he can't have a house in his name only because of the issues he has. Basically, I don't want to sign up for this as I have been saying for yearssss and I don't want my brother's issues to backfire on me one day. Your thoughts on what to do? Darn keyboard. Pressed enter. Ignore the last paragraph on the previous reply. There was no need to mention eldest brother and his state. We would have understood the post equally if he was excluded out of it. Also you got your money back. Dont get the greediness to sell if it was just in your name supposedly rather than giving it your brother or best to me. Coming to your question. The term Issues is vague can't extract explicitly out of it. Legally a person can either own a house or not. Dont get why co ownership is required. You have already made your decision. That is no. If you are being pursuaded to make a decision. Then it's not your decision. If you are seeking a mere comfort posting about your current situation. Then we can only pray you come out of this peacefully and bunch of hugs. Most importantly if you can contribute towards a well off house. Best is to get a small place of your own and be away from your toxic family |
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Post by rexa on Jul 27, 2023 19:56:20 GMT
Ok, so it's about me. My parents bought a different house in like 2012 I think it was and they needed some help with it since they couldn't fully afford it. The oldest sibling had no money to help at all so they didn't ask him. They mostly went to me. At first I was like if you can't afford it then get a different one but they didn't want to do that. So I basically said ok but that my other brother had to do something too. So my other brother agreed and they got their house. In the end I got all my money back and I think my brother did too. I also made it loud and clear that I don't want anything to do with that house again and they said ok. Now it is 2023 and they want to put my name on the house and my brother. Just the brother who helped pay for it last time. My brother agreed and I said no because as I told them back in 2012 I wanted nothing else to do with it and if they want to add another name there is the eldest brother still. My mom was like no we will not put his name just yours and the other one. And I'm like well I don't want my name on it so then you'll just have one brothers name and she's like no he can't be on there without you because of his own issues. The heck do I need to be involved for? Is it wrong for me to refuse? Like if it was JUST in my name only I'd sell it anyway. I just don't want a house especially with several names on it. Like if my parents die it will be drama because I'd want to sell it and my brother wouldn't or whatever because he can't have a house in his name only because of the issues he has. Basically, I don't want to sign up for this as I have been saying for yearssss and I don't want my brother's issues to backfire on me one day. Your thoughts on what to do? Personally I think your mom wants you to have a property in your name and I get the reason why you don't want it which is totally understandable. Just to swiftly get out of this situation. Agree to the co ownership. Have it in your name to please your parents and later go to the court and denounce your rights |
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Post by rexa on Jul 27, 2023 19:57:09 GMT
Ok, so it's about me. My parents bought a different house in like 2012 I think it was and they needed some help with it since they couldn't fully afford it. The oldest sibling had no money to help at all so they didn't ask him. They mostly went to me. At first I was like if you can't afford it then get a different one but they didn't want to do that. So I basically said ok but that my other brother had to do something too. So my other brother agreed and they got their house. In the end I got all my money back and I think my brother did too. I also made it loud and clear that I don't want anything to do with that house again and they said ok. Now it is 2023 and they want to put my name on the house and my brother. Just the brother who helped pay for it last time. My brother agreed and I said no because as I told them back in 2012 I wanted nothing else to do with it and if they want to add another name there is the eldest brother still. My mom was like no we will not put his name just yours and the other one. And I'm like well I don't want my name on it so then you'll just have one brothers name and she's like no he can't be on there without you because of his own issues. The heck do I need to be involved for? Is it wrong for me to refuse? Like if it was JUST in my name only I'd sell it anyway. I just don't want a house especially with several names on it. Like if my parents die it will be drama because I'd want to sell it and my brother wouldn't or whatever because he can't have a house in his name only because of the issues he has. Basically, I don't want to sign up for this as I have been saying for yearssss and I don't want my brother's issues to backfire on me one day. Your thoughts on what to do? To please your mom I meant |
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Post by rexa on Jul 27, 2023 20:00:41 GMT
Your parents fear your brother will not be able to cope on his own. Difficult as it is, he needs you to be part of something with him. We all have funny family members, they keep us real. Help them out with your personal light by being involved in their issues, no matter how dull they may seem to be right now. No Ozzy Osbourne. That's not the issue. It's not a matter of living arrangement. But the title deed. The middle brother is good on his own. |
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Post by Elizabeth on Aug 12, 2023 4:24:47 GMT
I guess, it's your issue, and you should resolve it. you should never ever bring your personal matters to the public, and let entire world know about it, because, someone can black mail you. All I would say, you do what you think is right. The pragmatic thing, which I would have done, is to seek a solicitor, and get his advise. I am not worried about blackmail. I had only one ever try and miserable fail. But what I mentioned here wasn't too personal to me to mention though but I get what you mean. |
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