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Post by Elizabeth on Mar 1, 2018 4:56:48 GMT
Is it harder to raise a boy or girl? What do you think and why.
Girls are easier I say. I have one niece and barely any trouble. But I have 3 nephews (ages 5, 5, and 8) and the oldest one is the leader of the gang. It's like a little mafia. Always trying to fight and break things. facepalm
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Post by Polaris on Mar 1, 2018 6:03:49 GMT
Is it harder to raise a boy or girl? What do you think and why. Girls are easier I say. I have one niece and barely any trouble. But I have 3 nephews (ages 5, 5, and 8) and the oldest one is the leader of the gang. It's like a little mafia. Always trying to fight and break things. I would say it is harder to raise a boy. Boys are naughty and even when playing a boy wants to be the leader and do what he likes whereas it is different with girls. when girls play they treat each other with more respect and they prefer to take turns and allow equal chances for all rather having one as the leader who has more power and who controls the rest of them like boys and that is why boys are always quarreling and fighting among themselves.
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Post by Elizabeth on Mar 1, 2018 6:13:13 GMT
Is it harder to raise a boy or girl? What do you think and why. Girls are easier I say. I have one niece and barely any trouble. But I have 3 nephews (ages 5, 5, and 8) and the oldest one is the leader of the gang. It's like a little mafia. Always trying to fight and break things. I would say it is harder to raise a boy. Boys are naughty and even when playing a boy wants to be the leader and do what he likes whereas it is different with girls. when girls play they treat each other with more respect and they prefer to take turns and allow equal chances for all rather having one as the leader who has more power and who controls the rest of them like boys and that is why boys are always quarreling and fighting among themselves. Yes! I agree. My niece is 5 and she's like taking care of the boys. One time she told one of her cousin's (one of the 2 five year old twin boys), "Now tell your brother you are sorry for hitting him and that you won't do it again." She did my work for me xD Otherwise she just dances, sings, draws/colors, watches princess stuff, and plays dress up.
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Post by Polaris on Mar 1, 2018 6:36:13 GMT
i have daughters and my brother has sons. when i come home after work and they hear my knock they race to open the door for me and if one of them opens the door the others complain why you open the door for dad ? yesterday you opened it. To solve this problem i go outside again and knock again so that the one who is complaining opens the door this time , and usually i do it three times for my three daughter (just walking outside, knocking the door and have one of them open it for me). My brother's situation is different when he knocks the door all his sons rush to the door but not open the door for him but to be the first to rob him of all what he brings and they start shouting: you promised to give money and you didn't you promised to do that and you didn't jumping on his neck and back until he screams at them.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2018 12:25:37 GMT
ElizabethIs is allowed for elder girls to control their younger brother?.. This is the way of growing feminism.
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Post by Elizabeth on Mar 1, 2018 12:27:19 GMT
ElizabethIs is allowed for elder girls to control their younger brother?.. This is the way of growing feminism. No she is five and her cousins are 5. She tried to makr them stop fighting. They're like 2 months older than her
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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2018 12:30:33 GMT
ElizabethSo, it's even worse. Boys have not be controlled at all. They're crazy, but not all the time. Allowing girls to control boys, I think, is the strangest thing in upbringing.
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Post by Elizabeth on Mar 1, 2018 12:43:12 GMT
ElizabethSo, it's even worse. Boys have not be controlled at all. They're crazy, but not all the time. Allowing girls to control boys, I think, is the strangest thing in upbringing. No, she knew I was about to tell them to stop fighting since one was crying but she did it for me so I didn't have to. She was trying to be nice
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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2018 14:06:17 GMT
ElizabethIt's okay than. Boys are needed to be warrior, so they need to fight, to beat each other, and protect girls. I think it have to be like that. When I was 4-6 I was very cheetah - I nodded with almost everything but spoiled many tasks I was ordered to do. Other types of boys are more moody, so they need strongly to be taught to fight for the right things. What do I mean by that? I was tricky and it was harder with me, because I'd been always trying to figure it out by myself only. My brother, for example, being more capricious needed to be forced to do lots good things to understand what is good or wrong. Either of us was growth with his own spirit and will. So, I think it would be not easy to rise us for subordination. Also, I guess, boys need not to be scare, or cry. It is very bad seeing a crying boy. The key word in their education is courage. I ain't even know what would I do if I was married and have daughters?.. Polaris, probably, is the bravest father, because he's raising daughters! As for me, it is not very easy. He's like the 'King Lear'. So, I wish his all daughters would be as good as Cordelia!
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Post by bluesreligion on Mar 2, 2018 12:29:23 GMT
I was the oldest of four children being four years older then one of my brothers and nine years older then the others. A lot of what you are saying here is absolutely ridiculous. My mother had to work full time so I was a lot like a second mother. I made meals on the weekends and sometimes after school, and kept an eye on them in general. Maybe that is part of the reason I don't want children of my own, I've raised some already!
We all rough-housed and fought and I only broke up fights that were turning far too violent or were going to break things in the house. We all played in the woods and field, caught frogs. In the summer I would pack a lunch and we'd go to a local frog pond to pick berries and catch animals for fun, or fish. We played video games and did all kinds of other crazy things. We would all get on bikes or walk to the nearest store or the mall for treats with what money we could scrounge up.
This idea that females in general shouldn't ever be directing male activity is completely insane. One thing they liked to do during the winter was jump from the second story window into the snow. Even THAT was okay until I saw the snow wasn't going to support more jumps and I had to pull my little brother from that and lock the window. I was older and wiser: gender doesn't have anything to do with it!
None of my siblings ever had to be rushed to the hospital with a broken bone or a concussion. Sure some of that was luck, but I was fiercely protective of them without the coddling.
Despite this female instruction neither of my brothers seem to have suffered terribly. Females are not weak or stupid, and we don't lack courage. My youngest brother is a marine and the other one is a software developer pulling a very nice salary.
One thing I see in public is the coddling of children: children of both genders not allowed to run around or touch things or generally get themselves a few scrapes. It think this is laziness on the part of the parents no matter the gender: they are scared and don't want to deal with watching the children closely.
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Post by Elizabeth on Mar 2, 2018 13:06:47 GMT
I was the oldest of four children being four years older then one of my brothers and nine years older then the others. A lot of what you are saying here is absolutely ridiculous. My mother had to work full time so I was a lot like a second mother. I made meals on the weekends and sometimes after school, and kept an eye on them in general. Maybe that is part of the reason I don't want children of my own, I've raised some already! We all rough-housed and fought and I only broke up fights that were turning far too violent or were going to break things in the house. We all played in the woods and field, caught frogs. In the summer I would pack a lunch and we'd go to a local frog pond to pick berries and catch animals for fun, or fish. We played video games and did all kinds of other crazy things. We would all get on bikes or walk to the nearest store or the mall for treats with what money we could scrounge up. This idea that females in general shouldn't ever be directing male activity is completely insane. One thing they liked to do during the winter was jump from the second story window into the snow. Even THAT was okay until I saw the snow wasn't going to support more jumps and I had to pull my little brother from that and lock the window. I was older and wiser: gender doesn't have anything to do with it! None of my siblings ever had to be rushed to the hospital with a broken bone or a concussion. Sure some of that was luck, but I was fiercely protective of them without the coddling. Despite this female instruction neither of my brothers seem to have suffered terribly. Females are not weak or stupid, and we don't lack courage. My youngest brother is a marine and the other one is a software developer pulling a very nice salary. One thing I see in public is the coddling of children: children of both genders not allowed to run around or touch things or generally get themselves a few scrapes. It think this is laziness on the part of the parents no matter the gender: they are scared and don't want to deal with watching the children closely. I agree. The older sibling regardless of sex should help take care of the younger ones. If this is untrue then the siblings will actually suffer. I took care of my little cousin in Ukraine a lot. I was 6 years older only and one time needed to change him. His dad was busy with fixing the car and the little guy pooped in his pants. He was a toddler. So my uncle asked me if I wouldn't mind doing it. And despite not wanting to deal with poop I always was there and helped younger family members as well as older. But loved taking care of younger ones the most. So yeah took him inside and made sure he was good to go. Females are supposed to do this especially since they are future moms. They must learn to take care of others since they will be doing that. A mother refusing to care for her son in any form is so wrong. But we are taught this as we are growing up as you were and I to care for younger ones. What else are big siblings for?
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Post by bluesreligion on Mar 2, 2018 13:37:55 GMT
Aww Oh and you have family from the Ukraine? That's where my grandmother and all of them were from. They actually were in a pretty brutal camp in WW2 and came over from a refugee camp just after the war. I grew up hearing Ukranian daily but I can't speak it. How was it over there?
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Post by Διαμονδ on Mar 2, 2018 13:50:12 GMT
Aww Oh and you have family from the Ukraine? That's where my grandmother and all of them were from. They actually were in a pretty brutal camp in WW2 and came over from a refugee camp just after the war. I grew up hearing Ukranian daily but I can't speak it. How was it over there? What kind of camp?
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Post by Elizabeth on Mar 2, 2018 13:52:42 GMT
Aww Oh and you have family from the Ukraine? That's where my grandmother and all of them were from. They actually were in a pretty brutal camp in WW2 and came over from a refugee camp just after the war. I grew up hearing Ukranian daily but I can't speak it. How was it over there? Wow you have ukrainian blood too! That's so cool sista. But left Ukraine when I was about 8 so don't remember too much. Visited in 2011 though so hasn't changed much except maybe things looked smaller since when I lived there I was shorter and all looked so much bigger . But was able to get around my village still alone since remembered most of where everything was since I played outdoors often. So basically felt normal going back and family living there was surprised I had no trouble speaking Ukrainian only the whole 3 weeks there (was challenging though since missed English too xD). But was cool seeing my old school again, and my kindergarten across from the school, my church, some stores I used to go to, and family of course. I only remember my best friend in Ukraine mostly and her name but was told she was away and wouldn't see her. Forgot why she wasn't in the village though. But other than seeing friends...I saw mostly all else. However, after the crisis there and things that happened after my visit it's been difficult life there I hear. But if you ever get a chance you should visit and see where your grandma was from. Think it's nice to learn about that and experience it with a visit
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Post by Διαμονδ on Mar 2, 2018 13:53:08 GMT
It all depends on education .. sometimes it's harder for girls to control from an early age! Shrug
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