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Post by Lakupala on Feb 5, 2018 1:47:00 GMT
There's a gril I like but I don't know what to say since whenever I talk to people I always give one-word responses like "cool" and "alright". Am I doomed? -.- And what will make me look more attractive? (Like clothes and demeanor and all that stuff.)
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2018 1:50:14 GMT
First of all, are you shy? If so, you need to break out of your shell but the first thing you need to so is earn her trust then take it from there.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2018 1:55:52 GMT
Also, make sure you have common interests
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Post by Lakupala on Feb 5, 2018 1:55:59 GMT
First of all, are you shy? If so, you need to break out of your shell but the first thing you need to so is earn her trust then take it from there. I'm not. I just can't ever think of things to say. I'm even that way with my friends. |
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Post by Lakupala on Feb 5, 2018 1:56:48 GMT
Also, make sure you have common interests okay |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2018 2:21:35 GMT
So you're the silent type?
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Post by Lakupala on Feb 5, 2018 2:26:43 GMT
I suppose.
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Post by Elizabeth on Feb 5, 2018 2:27:50 GMT
Here's a few things to guide you. 1. Girls like it when you are the first to show you're interested in them but be all sweet and cute about it. Maybe if you see her let's say buying cereal at a store then start a topic on that cereal but don't be negative, funny and cute is the aim. If you like that cereal too say, "Oh, if eaten that as a kid. Actually, there's this one funny time when....(and say something funny.)" If she smiles and laughs you're liked. You can ask her out or ask to see her again. 2. Do not be shy! You can only a little bit but it's not cute if it's more than that. Girls want to hear what you have to say and girls are big on communication. 3. Always find out her likes and interests in the beginning and focus on your similarities!  |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2018 2:29:43 GMT
Do you and the girl have any common interests/hobbies? The most important thing in keeping a conversation going is common ground. But do you know this girl well already?
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Post by Lakupala on Feb 5, 2018 2:39:48 GMT
Here's a few things to guide you. 1. Girls like it when you are the first to show you're interested in them but be all sweet and cute about it. Maybe if you see her let's say buying cereal at a store then start a topic on that cereal but don't be negative, funny and cute is the aim. If you like that cereal too say, "Oh, if eaten that as a kid. Actually, there's this one funny time when....(and say something funny.)" If she smiles and laughs you're liked. You can ask her out or ask to see her again. 2. Do not be shy! You can only a little bit but it's not cute if it's more than that. Girls want to hear what you have to say and girls are big on communication. 3. Always find out her likes and interests in the beginning and focus on your similarities! Hmm, I think I can do this, tbh. Thanks! |
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Post by Lakupala on Feb 5, 2018 2:41:13 GMT
Do you and the girl have any common interests/hobbies? The most important thing in keeping a conversation going is common ground. But do you know this girl well already? We have two classes together. We like some of the same music and she likes playing Stardew Valley. |
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Post by Elizabeth on Feb 5, 2018 2:43:30 GMT
There you go focus talking about music you like  |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2018 2:51:47 GMT
Also, like Elizabeth said, be funny, girls love guys with a sense of humor
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Post by reasonablevoices on Feb 5, 2018 3:45:58 GMT
Talk to a wide range of people, and often. You cannot improve your social skills (or any skill) unless you practice consistently. Experiment and try different approaches, and see which ones fit you and get you the results you need. But most importantly DON'T BE NEEDY. You should not compromise yourself or your values in pursuit of another person's attention. Your attitude should be one of self-sufficiency--you are enough. If it works out with this girl, then that's great. If it doesn't work out with this girl, then there are plenty more who would be more than happy to date you, so that's ok, too. There is a blog called the Rational Male. The collection of articles under "Year One" are incredibly useful. I don't agree with everything in it (especially the promotion of casual sex), but it does explain very well the kind of mindset that you should have when dealing with others, especially of the opposite sex. therationalmale.com/the-best-of-rational-male-year-one/ |
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Post by Elizabeth on Feb 5, 2018 3:53:34 GMT
Talk to a wide range of people, and often. You cannot improve your social skills (or any skill) unless you practice consistently. Experiment and try different approaches, and see which ones fit you and get you the results you need. But most importantly DON'T BE NEEDY. You should not compromise yourself or your values in pursuit of another person's attention. Your attitude should be one of self-sufficiency--you are enough. If it works out with this girl, then that's great. If it doesn't work out with this girl, then there are plenty more who would be more than happy to date you, so that's ok, too. There is a blog called the Rational Male. The collection of articles under "Year One" are incredibly useful. I don't agree with everything in it (especially the promotion of casual sex), but it does explain very well the kind of mindset that you should have when dealing with others, especially of the opposite sex. therationalmale.com/the-best-of-rational-male-year-one/ Like that your Christian! I agree with your post |
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